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Relationships Are Never Easy, Are They?
by Paula Hines Lonergan
Over the years when I was single I had many roommates. At one time there were four of us in a two bedroom apartment. The times I remember the most are when we would all occasionally be home at the same time and converge at the kitchen table to have girl talk. I don't remember a lot of fights or disagreements.
But the thing about roommates is that if you choose you can close the door and go into your room, without it being a problem. Everyone needs their own space and it is expected that you take advantage of it when needed, especially if one has the PMS.
Marriage, on the other hand, means you have to work at the relationship to make a success of it. You can't just go into the other room and close the door all the time. If you want the marriage to work, if you want your marriage to be happy, you have to hash things out, sometimes fight things out (in a nice way, of course), and discuss feelings and thoughts.
So, what is easier? Well, I don't know for sure. I guess it all depends on what the persons want and devote to their life situation, whether it is a roomie or husband or wife. No matter what it will take communication and a mutual understanding and adjusting on one level or another. People are complex and so are relationships, too, sometimes. You think? I do.
Writing and Publishing Tip:
It's a new year. Are you planning to write a book, articles for the newspaper, or poetry? Make time to write everyday. Even if it is just 5 minute or15 minutes a day. The more you write the more natural writing will become and you will find your projects getting done. Whatever those projects may be.
Inspirational thought of the day:
Copyright 2005 Paula Lonergan.